Brillaint breakdown on the conditional nature of patience. The distinction between feeling morally defective versus staying curious after regret is subtle but changes everything. I've been in situations where bringing 'six tally marks' to a conversation garuanteed a blowup, but cleaning the slate before someone speaks actually works. Took me forever to realize that the setup happens before the trigger.
Brillaint breakdown on the conditional nature of patience. The distinction between feeling morally defective versus staying curious after regret is subtle but changes everything. I've been in situations where bringing 'six tally marks' to a conversation garuanteed a blowup, but cleaning the slate before someone speaks actually works. Took me forever to realize that the setup happens before the trigger.
Yes, I think we must clean the slate again and again and again.